Food, Fun, Family, Friends & Fur
Not necessarily in that order. But where I will continue and regularly talk about all that goes on in the life of Mr Mom, my humorous stories about my husband, family and travels to the serious topics of my work and passions to the getting old part of my life, and what that means for an old queen like myself.
On the eve of Christmas day, time again for reflection. As I stood waiting for some gifts to be monogrammed, a voice brought me back to reality. “Russell”, you don’t know me but I know you, I am a foster parent and see your face all over. I thought to myself its been awhile since I have seen a family poster of us “the foster family”, never the less felt a little like a rock star… local celebrity ..ok then someone she might ask directions from.
We exchanged pleasantries, while my mind tried to figure out who she was and if I had possibly met her before or even supported her family at some point. Old age and the billion other things let this go pretty quick as what did it matter, she was a foster parent.
She quickly, as most foster parents do, started to tell me about her family, how many, who was coming and who was going back home and what the ministry was doing well and what they were not. This is very common when running into them, as this is their lives, they purpose and sometimes they just need an outlet and then they are off again.
This time was different though, as it took me to that place where my pride of foster parents and what they do takes over. The tears began to well up as she talked with the utmost pride and biggest smile while doing so.
I know the news often talks about what’s wrong with the system, not only here in BC but all over Canada. I know that we always hear when there is some God awful tragedy involving a foster parent or their family. Seldom do we ever get to talk about all the good foster parents do.
Now when I talk about foster parents, I want to also include those grand parents that take on their grandchildren, the teacher who has jumped in to take in a child from her school, the sister who trying to keep her family together takes in her brothers kids because he has fallen to addiction.
As an only child for 30 years, and now a brother to a 24 year old, I feel so blessed to have family. I can never imagine not having the amazing family that I have.
Many people have said to me over the many years, “I don’t know how you raise someone else’s child. I will admit that at times it is not easy. At times it is downright rough. What I can then say is once you are over those feelings it is the most amazing thing you can do.
I feel there is a reason that everyone comes into our lives, including the small ones, I can tell you that I have learned so much more from our kids than ever giving back to them. Throughout the holidays, our family tries to give back in a variety of ways, trying to teach our kids that no matter how bad you think it is it could be worse.
Care givers are the kindest hearted people I know. They give usually until they can give no more. Today listening to this foster parent all that kept running through my mind was, she could be talking to me about her Christmas list, her new coat, her own kids, her recent holiday. No, she was talking about how sad and happy her foster child was returning to their family. How she would miss them, how her days up to today have been filled getting ready for the holidays to give this child a great Christmas before they would leave.
She spoke highly of the family and had said she had wished she could do more for them. When I asked her what she was doing for her Christmas Dinner, she said that she had invited the child’s family to share with her own family.
Most of us open our doors to those that may not have a place to go, most of us continue the spirit of Christmas, without the religious meaning attached to it.
So as 2018 comes to a close, I am hopeful for a brighter and better and more loving 2019.
So today….. I want to wish the many new friends that we have met along the way this year, the many old friends that are loyal to a fault the best of holiday season. From our family to yours, we wish you and your families a very Merry Christmas.
To all the caretakers of the world, never stop loving and never stop doing what you do.